Send all messages to personal email (not the site inbox)... how?

I want each system-generated or member-composed message to go only to the recipient's personal email address.  If a copy goes to the composer's email it must *not* reveal the intended recipient's personal email.  However, the copy that goes to the recipient must have the sender's personal email address so it's possible to reply.

Why do this? I'm replacing an old ASP website that does it that way and have been asked to install the same process on the new site.

Simpler question (I hope)...

What code and/or db change is required so the check-box for "Send copy to personal email" is checked by default?

If you want that field selected by default, you can try this

open your _header.html file, you will find this

$(document).ready( function() {

$( 'div.RSSAggrCont' ).dolRSSFeed();

} );

change it to this

$(document).ready( function() {

$( 'div.RSSAggrCont' ).dolRSSFeed();

$('input[id=to_mail]').attr('checked', true);

} );

Custom code added + tested in both admin & non-admin accounts... works perfect.  Thank you!

glad to help....