Nevermind, I found it!
in index.php around line 63
AFTER THIS
check_logged();
PUT THIS
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#SteveSoft
#11-21-2012
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$aRes = $GLOBALS['MySQL']->getRow("SELECT `DateLastNav` FROM `Profiles` WHERE `ID`='" . $_COOKIE['memberID'] . "'");
$sDifference = time() - strtotime($aRes['DateLastNav']);
if ($sDifference >= (3600*8)){
require_once(BX_DIRECTORY_PATH_CLASSES . 'BxDolAlerts.php');
$oZ = new BxDolAlerts('profile', 'login', $_COOKIE['memberID']);
$oZ->alert();
}
This will trigger a login alert if they have "Remember Me" checked and haven't been on the site in 3600*8 (8 hours).
This is if you have a credits or points mod installed, they can still get those even if they don't use the login form. Or you want to pop up an alert, etc...